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By samsmommy81 · November 24, 2011

We experienced our first trip to the emergency room with Sam the other day. She had "pulled elbow" otherwise known as "nursemaid's elbow". It's a dislocation of a bone in the elbow, and who knew it could happen so easily! It was something as simple as pulling her from a seated to standing position while holding onto her hands. Something we've done a million times before without thinking, except this time it went wrong. Sam instantly started crying and we couldn't figure out what was wrong with her. Then we noticed that she was doing everything with her right hand while the left was limp and lifeless. So we went into panic mode of course. Feeling like horrible parents, and feeling even worse for our little girl who was obviously in pain, we rushed out the door for the hospital. It would have been so much easier if she could talk! Anyhow, on our way there we sat in the car, in dead silence; with a ton of thoughts running through our heads. I dreaded the sea of people we would find in the waiting room, BUT I never thought I would be happy to find another child with the exact same problem Sam was having. A little boy with a "pulled elbow" just like Sam walked into the hospital just before us. We weren't alone anymore. Another parent was experiencing the exact same heart wrenching moment as we were. We may not be horrible parents after all! Just when you feel like "why is this happening to me" life has a way of kicking you in the butt and telling you it could be much worse. A simple procedure fixed our daughter's arm and for that I am truly grateful. Hospital staff was so attentive to Sam, making this scary experience a lot more comfortable for us. Everyone from the administrative staff to the nurses to the doctors…they were friendly, helpful and had a way of making us feel more relaxed and at ease.

So after all that Samantha is feeling much better! She spent a couple days favouring her right arm over her left, but slowly she recovered and is back to crawling, climbing, lifting, pointing…all the wonderful little things that make my heart melt.

What you've missed...

By samsmommy81 · November 18, 2011

Has it really been 6 months since my last blog post??!! I can't believe how fast the time passes. To be honest life just got busier! Samantha started to crawl, eat solid foods, and gained a new interest in climbing EVERY piece of dangerous furniture that we own. Needless to say we no longer have a coffee table, and soon our TV will be mounted on the wall to eliminate the glass TV stand that we bought without thinking just before Sam was born. So I haven't really had time to write. BUT I have missed it! I would often think about awesome moments to share and I meant to get around to it, but whenever I did have a free moment, showering and sleeping got in the way. So let's get caught up…

Samantha experienced her very first summer and it was so much fun for us! Kiddie pools, trips to the cottage, and long walks in the park…she loved it all.

She started eating solid foods, her dirty diapers were now hard and exceptionally stinky, and she experienced her first body rash. Initially we thought it was eczema, but thankfully it was just a heat rash. Summer came and went and Sam still wasn't crawling. According to certain milestone checklists, this should have already happened. So this is when I started trying to coax her along. I crawled around the house in hopes that she'd mimic me….that didn't work. I put my hands under her feet every time she got in the "crawl position", hoping she would push off. Nope. Soon I gave up, and that's when Sam started crawling. This seems to be an ongoing trend in our house. It was so exciting! At first. Then baby proofing took on a whole new meaning! Baby gates, child locks, magnetic contraptions for the kitchen cupboards. We're in baby proofing jail. It used to be so easy to wash my hands and reach for the dishtowel under the sink. Now I need a key to get in. Anyhow, moving on, October 18, 2011 we celebrated Sam's FIRST birthday!! It felt like I had been planning it since before her birth! Actually it all started when the pregnancy test came back positive but who's keeping track??

It was so much fun to plan and host! All 3 parties. Well, we only hosted two, but to accommodate our large families, Samantha's birthday festivities lasted for about a week.

(Cupcakes by: www.samssweettooth.com)

I can't believe how fast a year went by. My colicky newborn was now a big girl on the verge of walking on her own. Which she still hasn't done yet, but I decided to throw the milestone chart out the window...she'll do it when she's good and ready!

(Cake by: www.samssweettooth.com)

Then it was Sam's 2nd Halloween which proved to be more fun for us than her. Picking out a costume, getting her all dressed up, taking her trick or treating…it really was all for our benefit…and for the candy!

Now, the hardest part for me has been going back to work. On November 7, 2011, I became a "working mom" and it has NOT been an easy transition. Even though I complained sometimes, I loved being at home with my little girl, raising her, teaching her. Now I see her for a total of three hours a day and it makes me sad. Weekends have taken on a whole new meaning for us. Our "family time" now takes precedence over laundry or cleaning and we try to enjoy it to its fullest.

It's weird how a parent's life and their priorities can change so drastically from one day to the next. But I think instinctually, we learn how to deal, how to adapt and how make it work, while thinking first and foremost of how life's challenges now affect the most important, influential person in your life…your child.

Bella's Beanie

By samsmommy81 · May 24, 2011

When I first found out I was having a girl, I think I was most excited about all the clothes I intended to buy her! Now I find myself constantly shopping for her and I often leave the mall without even buying something for myself...most of the time...but not always. I recently purchased some adorable crocheted items for Sam from Bella`s Beanie. Bella`s Beanie makes hats, accessories and custom items for babies and children and she is so talented!


I wanted to share some photos of Sam sporting her new accessories...

Ballerina Legwarmers

Uggy Baby Booties

Uggy Baby Booties

Summer Flower Headband

Summer Flower Headband

Garden Butterfly Headband

Garden Butterfly Headband



"I'll be there for you"

By samsmommy81 · May 13, 2011

As a mother I already find myself worrying about the challenging moments that childhood may bring for Sam. I only hope that as she grows up, matures and changes, she will be fortunate enough to meet a lifelong friend along the way. I was lucky enough to meet two. Two friends who may play very different roles in my life, and yet they both pick me up when I am down, give me advice when things feel hopeless, and push me to strive when I feel like giving up. They accept all my downfalls and they don’t give up on me when I prove to be the most stubborn, difficult friend in the world. Without one, I wouldn’t have the most amazing high school memories as we grew up together. Without the other, I wouldn’t be able scream, cry and laugh all in the same day as we grow as wives and mothers.  Life can be very demanding these days...especially now that we are all mothers. We don’t have the time to see each other as often as we would like, we don’t always agree on choices or decisions, and we fight and make up, and fight and make up... just like friends are supposed to do.

I read a quote the other day...“You only meet your once in a lifetime friend... once in a lifetime”. I met two.


Famous Firsts

By samsmommy81 · May 13, 2011

First dirty diaper, first smile, first Christmas, first laugh...all of which are some exciting "firsts" that have happened thus far in Samantha's 6 months of life.  I think they've all been more exciting for us as new parents. We just experienced Sam's first Easter, which was definitely memorable for everyone. Sam received many first Easter gifts (including chocolate...for which my husband is truly grateful) and she took her first photo with the Easter bunny!  

I realized however, that it's not just the "first" moments that will be fun from now on. Every holiday, every milestone, every tradition have taken on a whole new meaning now that we have a child of our own. I am excited to share and teach her about the importance of all these events and what they meant to us as we grew up.  We also have the pleasure of creating new traditions with our little girl, just as our parents did for us.

Until recently I never really thought about all of the things that are important for me to pass on to my children. But since Sam is not yet old enough to understand all of this, we wait, and anxiously anticipate her first tooth, her first word, and eventually her first step.

Ode to You

By samsmommy81 · April 16, 2011

Except for the first two weeks of life, Sam has always been pretty high maintenance. From the colic, to the bad sleeping patterns, and now what seems like the never ending teething stage...she's always kept us on our toes. But I've had an amazing partner along side of me every step of the way. For the past six months my husband has been here to help me through every difficult moment. Aside from going to work, he comes home everyday and relieves me of my motherly duties so I can get some time to myself. And when I say "time to myself" I mean cooking or laundry or tidying up; but nonetheless, it's a helpful break. Well yesterday for the first time since Sam was born, my husband went out right after work and didn't get home until midnight....and Sam had the worst teething day. She cried and fussed and didn't want to be anywhere else but in my arms. By the time dinner came around, frozen pizza was my saviour. Every feeding, every spit up, every play time, every dirty diaper, every tantrum...I had to do it alone all day and all night, and it was then that I gained a new, profound appreciation for single parents. I had trouble getting through one day, and by the end of the night I was in tears because I forgot to put socks underneath Sam's pajamas. I don't think you ever truly appreciate certain luxuries until one day you're forced to do without them.

Being a parent thus far has proven to be one of the most important, rewarding and exciting jobs I've ever had...and by far the most challenging. To all single parents, You are my Hero.

Pretty in Pink

By samsmommy81 · April 12, 2011

I wanted to share this photo because it makes my heart melt.

Besides singing off key and playing Mary Had a Little Lamb on the piano, I have absolutely no musical talent.  I never had any interest in learning how to play an instrument either...UNTIL one day when I saw this pink guitar at a flea market.  I don’t know if it was the colour, or a sudden urge to learn something new...but I HAD to have it!  My husband bought it for me and taught me a few basics.  Eventually I mastered the chorus of a Nirvana song, and that’s all I played over and over and over again.

Hopefully Sam will be musically inclined like her Daddy, and maybe one day she’ll be just as fascinated as I was by the pretty pink guitar.  But until then...she’s awestruck by the man who plays it for her.

While you were sleeping

By samsmommy81 · April 8, 2011

I’m not the best baker, but yesterday I decided to get rid of the bananas in my freezer.  So I set out to make chocolate chip banana bread...and then it turned into muffins...and those soon became cupcakes when I decided to top them with buttercream icing.  So I made chocolate chip banana bread muffin cakes and they were a hit!  My husband loved them, my parents said they were delicious and my brother gave them two thumbs up...and apparently so did our dog Ruby...

My husband and I have always been dog people.  We grew up with dogs and always talked about having two or three of our own once we were married.  Well, our beloved dog Ruby was our first “baby”.  We bought Ruby just two days after we returned from our honeymoon.

All of our family and friends instantly fell in love with her and she came everywhere with us.  We dressed her up, walked her twice a day, took endless photos of her, and we even attended very expensive dog training classes.  She was the apple of our eyes.

We were even planning to give Ruby a sister and get another dog....until we got pregnant with Sam.  So we gave her a HUMAN sister instead?!?!

(photo above taken by www.peek-a-booportraits.com)

Since Samantha was born it’s been hard to juggle being married, being parents, owning a home, eating three meals a day, AND having a pet!  We’ve been trying our best to make Sam and Ruby love each other.

But I have to admit Ruby hasn’t been getting the attention she deserves.  We realized how much of an impact it’s having on her when we started waking up in the morning to garbage scattered all over the living room.  Her boredom has taken over and she’s been rummaging through the bathroom garbage at night.  Well when things STILL didn’t change Ruby decided to give us a huge wakeup call this morning!  We had a bad night with Sam, she didn’t fall asleep until midnight and by then we were so exhausted we marched to bed like zombies and left the cupcakes on the coffee table.  Last night Ruby decided to forego the garbage and eat the cupcakes instead.  I guess it’s true what they say....any attention is good attention...even in a dog’s life.

So I’ve learned a few things from all of this...1) to induce vomiting in a dog put “a teaspoon of salt" on the back of their tongue; 2) Ruby needs at least one walk a day, even if it means losing more sleep; and 3) we will probably NEVER have “two or three” dogs at a time.

(photo above taken by www.peek-a-booportraits.com)


(photo above taken by Laura Magnifico, www.peek-a-booportraits.com)

Where does the time go?

By samsmommy81 · April 6, 2011

It’s 11pm and I still have a million things to do.  But I had the urge to write so here I am.

First of all I want to share how excited I am that my very first post was featured on the Lilsugar website!  When I heard the good news it felt just like Christmas morning!  It was such a pleasant surprise and I am so honoured.

So tonight Sam fell asleep on the couch all by herself with the help of a pacifier and what I like to call her “Linus blanket”. She absolutely loves rubbing this fuzzy giraffe blankie all over her face while she is falling asleep. (http://www.angeldear.net)

The difficult part is prying it out of her little hands before we go to bed.  It has been quite a challenge to get her to sleep in her own room...for both her and me!  She’s been sleeping in a bassinet by my bedside since she was born.  Initially, every attempt we made to put her in the crib was unsuccessful.  We spent many sleepless nights rocking her, putting her down in her crib, and then repeating the task EVERY time she woke up. We thought by the 5th try she would stay down... but we were wrong!  Well one night last week I watched as my 19 pound baby tossed and turned in this tiny bassinet, and at that moment I realized it was no longer safe...we absolutely had to move her to the crib no matter how much she protested!  So every time I share a successful moment I seem to jinx myself...but I’m going to do it anyway... this is the fourth consecutive night that Samantha is sleeping in her crib, in her own bedroom!  And as I type this I watch the video monitor in dismay as she wriggles and squirms.

It’s bittersweet for me because I’m experiencing some separation anxiety, but I’m also thrilled that I no longer have to tip toe in my own room and crawl into bed like a ninja, trying so hard not to wake her up.  Just when I was afraid that she’d be sleeping in my room until she was 12...she proved me wrong!

Cookie Monster!

By samsmommy81 · April 4, 2011

Our little Sam is having a really bad teething day.  Nothing seems to be helping her and the MANY teethers we have are only causing more frustration as she angrily tries to tear them apart!

On a happier note, I’m hoping to start her on rice cereal in a couple weeks...for the second time.  My first cereal attempt was not successful.  I introduced it to her when she turned 4 months because she no longer seemed satisfied after her bottle feedings.  Well she absolutely loved it!  After about a week she even started to open her mouth when she saw the spoon coming towards her!  It was really exciting for all of us, but I also noticed that she began to experience bouts of painful gas.  I decided to stop the rice cereal and when I did, the gas stopped as well.  So we were advised to wait until she turns 6 months to try it again.

Since then, she watches in awe while we eat our “adult food”.  Yesterday my mother in law was holding Samantha in her arms and as she reached for a bowl of chocolate Easter eggs, Sam bent down and attempted to put the entire thing in her mouth.  This morning as I was waiting for her bottle to warm up I decided to nibble on a cookie... (Breakfast of champions) and as I took a bite, Sam’s little hand quickly and steadily snatched the cookie away from me!

So on April 18th, when she officially turns 6 months old, we’ll try the rice cereal again and hope for the best.  I’ll keep you posted!



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